Experiencing hurt in this life can be unavoidable. While we cannot avoid hurt, we can choose how we cope with it. Unfortunately, we can be left feeling powerless when we experience hurt and sadness. You may feel alone, but this does not mean you are alone. Therapy can help. 

Not Talking as a Defense Mechanism

Not talking is a manifestation of repression; a defense mechanism to keep unpleasant thoughts and memories out of your mind. Not talking can also be borne out of fear of being misunderstood. The people closest to you likely want to help, though it can be difficult for them to know what to say or do to make things better. Unfortunately, they may even leave you feeling worse. 

It is natural to want to avoid talking about painful things, though this rarely leads to improvement. It can be detrimental to make yourself talk about things before you are ready and at the same time, avoiding difficult conversations and topics completely can be equally as unhealthy. 

Why Does Talking Help? 

When you talk about what you are feeling and experiencing you can begin to have a better understanding of what is going on. This can allow you to identify unhelpful or unhealthy thoughts, beliefs and behaviors. When you have a grasp on these things you can begin to make change. 

This may sound simple on paper, however, this can be difficult to do on your own. When you work with a therapist you have a non-bias professional that can help you sort through what is getting in your way and provide effective skills training. Evidence-based therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) can make a world of difference. You can begin to challenge what doesn’t work for you and find healthier alternatives. 

Getting the Help You Deserve

You don’t have to wait until you feel you have no other options. Counseling can be a proactive way to address your hurt and find healthy ways to move forward. Too many times people wait and use therapy as a last ditch effort to feel better. Starting sooner rather than later can lead to better outcomes. 

CCS in Southern Pines contracts with caring therapists who can help. You deserve to feel like the best version of yourself. Call Carolina Counseling Services today and schedule your first appointment.