Self-Harm:
Myths and Misconceptions
Unfortunately, many people think that deliberate self-harm (DSH) is a way to get attention from others, this misconception is not only untrue but also rather harmful for a number of reasons. Individuals will engage in self-harming behaviors for a variety of reasons, and while there may be some that are doing so to be heard, the vast majority are not.
If your child is in deep pain and too embarrassed or afraid to tell anyone, they may cut or self-harm in an attempt to feel better. There are many possible reasons for self-harm, it is important to understand these reasons in order to seek appropriate treatment. Self-harm is an indication that something is going on that needs to be addressed. There is no need to suffer in silence, help is available.
Understanding Self-Harm
Engaging in self-harm can cause a great deal of shame and guilt. Individuals who injury themselves often go to great lengths to conceal the signs of injury, such as by wearing long-sleeved or high-necked outfits.
Another myth associated with self-injury is that it is synonymous with suicide. Those who self-harm may not be thinking of ending their lives, but they may not be able to just stop the behavior, even when they want to. Further, DSH isn’t limited to teenagers, though they may be statistically more likely to engage in self-harm. DSH can be triggered by a number of concerns, including depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, abuse or borderline personality disorder (BPD).
Why Self-Harm?
Since DSH is more common in young people, many may wonder, “What drives young people to self-harm?” Therapist Jenna Mutlick, who has personal experience of it, says it can be a form of “self-punishment.” However, the motivations to self-harm can be varied. According to Professor Glyn Lewis of the University College London, “It’s a very heterogeneous group of people who self-harm, and there are a variety of reasons why people might start.”
Self-injury can be a way of communicating or expressing emotional distress. It can also be a way to shift attention away from a troubling thought or feeling, to escape from a deep hurt or negative thought, or to numb miserable feelings. In some cases, it is also to get attention. Young people who are struggling may find physical pain easier to deal with than the distress they feel inside.
Self-harm is a counterproductive strategy to resolve any concern. Though, as with any self-destructive behavior it began for a reason, finding this reason can be crucial to finding healthier alternatives. Therapy can help with this. Oftentimes self-injury is linked to other concerns like depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, or a personality disorder, all of which can be treated effectively by a trained therapist.
Get the Help You Deserve with Carolina Counseling Services
Self-harm can leave you feeling alone, though these feelings are powerful you are not powerless. While you may feel compelled to isolate and not reach out for help, CCS is here and able to help you find healthier ways to cope. Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with independent, licensed therapists that can help you begin your road to recovery.
If you or your child is struggling with self-injury, call today to schedule your first appointment.
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