Managing Anger And Frustration Through Marriage Counseling
Nothing is wrong with feeling angry or frustrated. Both of these powerful human emotions are normal, healthy and usually necessary, especially in response to hurt and fear. At the same time, anger can be destructive. It can be used to mask pain, loneliness and boredom. When left unchecked, anger can become out of control and negatively impact relationships.
For most marriages, misunderstandings will result in some anger and frustration. In time, yelling and/or angry words can become too common. It’s surprising to know that you can be most angry with the person you love. The same pattern is repeated when you feel you’re not heard, understood or even loved by your spouse. It becomes even worse when negative feelings get in the way of resolving marital problems despite efforts to communicate.
Getting Out of the Anger Trap
Being in a relationship, you may expect your partner to understand and meet your needs. When you feel that they are not met you may be left feeling unloved and angry. Perhaps you and your partner have drifted apart and you continue to have the same arguments without resolution. With anger burning in your heart, you may feel defeated and frustrated.
Anger can create a huge dent in your relationship. It doesn’t have to be that way. This highly-charged emotion can actually be utilized to provide motivation for positive change in yourself and in your relationship. You can learn skills that allow you to handle intense emotions like anger and tools to resolve conflict. A healthy relationship is not free of conflict and anger, however, conflicts can be resolved without blame. Counseling can help you to learn these skills and tools.
Learning Emotion Regulation and Conflict Resolution
Intense, unregulated emotions bring many couples to counseling. Anger can be one of these emotions. When we are angry it is hard to think clearly, which makes resolving conflict extremely difficult. Therapy can help you to learn valuable skills to help you regulate your emotions, allowing you to feel in control of your anger rather than feeling controlled by it.
Once we feel more in control of how we are feeling we are able to address ongoing conflicts and find resolution. Marriage counseling can provide all of this and more. During sessions, you’ll learn how to express anger in safe and healthy ways. Finding ways to use emotions positively for the benefit of your relationship is essential. Through healthy communication and conflict resolution your relationship can improve.
If you’re tired of feeling angry most of the time and believe it has taken over your relationships, counseling can help. CCS in Southern Pines contracts with skilled licensed therapists and counselors. Call today to schedule your first appointment.
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