Infidelity can be considered one of the most traumatic events in a marriage due to the heartache and devastation that can be brought on by the act. Many marriages that survive infidelity find that it may take several years to rebuild the bond and trust afterwards. If you are faced with a similar situation, you may be questioning whether you can give your marriage another chance.

Asking Why

It can be hard to say what leads to infidelity. You may find yourself asking many questions and even questioning yourself. You may be presented with vague answers and fear that cheating may become a pattern in your relationship. The choice to continue on in your marriage will be up to you and a decision that only you and your spouse can make. Regardless of whether you choose to work on your marriage or separate, it can be important for the real issues to be addressed.

The Pain that Infidelity Can Bring

Being deceived by a person whom you trusted may cause you to question the future of your marriage. You may find yourself wondering whether you can share with the person you turned to for support when the pain you’re in now was caused by the same person. You may feel lonely and confused, even longing for the partner who used to provide you solace. You may feel hurt and angry, deeply wounded that your spouse broke the sacredness of your marriage vows. You may even feel overcome with rage and begin to act impulsively. Intense emotions and distress can be taxing, leading to self-defeating or self-destructive behaviors, anxiety and even depression.

Deciding to Stay Together

Infidelity can bring you to a crossroad, deciding whether to stay with your spouse or in choosing divorce. If you opt to work toward forgiveness in your marriage, it may be a difficult process. Though this process may be difficult it may be made easier with help from a professional marriage counselor.

Consider the Benefits of Counseling

Cheating can be an indication of a problem within the person who crossed the boundary line and/or a problem in the relationship. Such issues may or may not even be known to you or your spouse. It can often times be beneficial to have a non-judgmental, well-trained eye to see and lead you to finding an understanding of what may need to change in your marriage.

Look no further than Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC. Expert, licensed, independently contracted counselors are available to meet you and your spouse’s own unique marriage counseling needs. Therapy may be needed to heal the wounds of infidelity and restore peace and happiness in your marriage. Call now to request an appointment.

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