Curbing Anger and Transforming It into Peaceful Conclusion
Anger can be a very intense emotion. Unfortunately, it is often easier to respond to it by exploding, which may be what you often do, hurting people you love or placing yourself in humiliating situations in the process. Knowing what it can potentially do, you may also decide to keep it bottled inside, careful to protect relationships and your image. However, not addressing how you feel isn’t healthy either as it can simply be suppressed for a bigger or more powerful eruption at a later date, possibly causing more hurt and embarrassment.
Understanding Your Anger
You can’t avoid getting angry because it is a natural human emotion. Anger itself isn’t the problem, how we respond to it is where it can then become problematic. Anger can sometimes turn into a plain and pure response to the sudden release of the “fight or flight” hormone called adrenaline. Later, physically drained and worried about the people you hurt, you may regret your outburst having accomplished nothing productive.
Fearful of this consequence, it is also natural to try to control your emotion by putting a lid on your simmering anger. This may also be an unproductive and unhealthy way to manage your anger. Repressing your anger may cause you to unconsciously become short-tempered, contemptuous and unhappy. All these behaviors can gradually harm relationships, not to mention consume you and your physical health.
Curbing Your Anger in a Healthy Way
Anger is to be expected and responding to it is both natural and essential. It is a powerful emotion, and it can be difficult to know how to respond to it in a healthy way. Anger is unique in the sense that it is a secondary emotion. We are often angry because we feel something else, though this something else can be difficult to uncover. Therapy can help.
With the right counselor you can begin to explore your emotions and find healthier ways to cope with them. Anger included. Carolina Counseling Services – Southern Pines, NC contracts with therapists who understand intense feelings and can help you find ways to regulate your emotions and cope more effectively. Call today to get started.
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